日期：2015 年 4 月 8 日 23:58
Date: April 8, 2015, 11:58 PM
房间里飞进了好几只蜜蜂，绕着灯，不断地盘旋。小女孩数了数，有八只蜜蜂在日光灯下飞舞。她的脸上写满了担忧：“老师，它们会叮我吗？” 我笑了笑：“不会的，别担心。”
Several bees flew into the room, circling endlessly around the lamp. The little girl counted—eight bees danced under the fluorescent light. Her face tightened with worry: “Teacher, will they sting me?” I smiled and replied, “No, don’t worry.”
然而，我安慰的话语，终究没能平息她的恐惧。于是我们开始讨论，如何解决眼前的困境。但我并没有打算亲自出手，我希望她自己去面对，自己去尝试。
Yet my words of comfort failed to ease her fear. So we began to discuss how to deal with the situation. But I had no intention of intervening—I wanted her to face it herself, to try her own way.
她想了想，忽然大义凛然地说：“不如我去让蜜蜂叮，叮了我，它们没了尾针就会死。” 我凝视着她：“你真的愿意这样吗？” 在无数个稚嫩的主意后，她终于决定：拿个水桶装满水，用反光吸引蜜蜂，让它们坠入水里。于是，我只是静静看着她，去执行这看似伟大的计划。
She thought for a moment, then declared boldly: “Maybe I should let the bees sting me. Once they sting, they’ll lose their stingers and die.” I looked at her and asked, “Do you really want to do that?” After countless clumsy ideas, she finally decided: take a bucket of water, let the reflection lure the bees, and drown them. I simply stood by, watching quietly as she carried out her “grand” plan.
就在这时，她的母亲从房里出来。见女儿陷入这般冒险的情境，便像小说里的侠客一般，挥动电蚊拍，三两下就收拾了所有蜜蜂。离开前，还投来一个带怨的眼神，似乎在责怪我为何不帮她的孩子。
At that moment, her mother stepped out of the room. Seeing her daughter caught in this “adventure,” she swooped in like a heroine from a novel—wielding an electric racket, striking swiftly, and dispatching all the bees in seconds. Before leaving, she cast me a resentful glance, as if to blame me for not helping her child.
迎着那眼神，我心里暗想：多好的一次成长机会，就这样，被无意间抹杀了。
Meeting that gaze, I thought to myself: what a precious chance for growth—snuffed out in an instant, without meaning to.
这一代的孩子，往往被过多的爱围绕着。幸福让他们错过了许多可以独立的机会。正因如此，当他们在我面前时，我总喜欢制造一些小小的情境，让他们亲手去做。哪怕有问题，我也常常笑着说：“别担心，老师在这里。”
Children of this generation are often surrounded by too much love. Their comfort robs them of opportunities to stand alone. That is why, when they are before me, I often create small challenges, encouraging them to try with their own hands. Even when things go wrong, I smile and say: “Don’t worry, I’m here.”
这不仅是对孩子如此，对我带领的营队伙伴也是如此。他们知道，我总会给他们许多机会，让他们去发挥。让他们的营队，能呈现出他们设想的模样，从而获得真正的成就感。
This applies not only to children, but also to the friends I lead in camps. They know I always give them space to take charge, to shape the program into what they envision, and through that, to taste genuine accomplishment.
放手，也许并不容易，但我始终选择这样做。每一次，看见孩子或伙伴在这样的机会中展现自己，获得自信与喜悦，我便为他们的成长而感到骄傲。
Letting go may not be easy, but it is the way I choose. Each time I see a child or a friend shine through such opportunities—gaining confidence, claiming joy—I feel proud of their growth.
放手，并不等于不负责任的离开，而是给他们留出成长的空间。我一直在场，只是不常出场。唯有如此，他们才能站在自己的舞台上，成为最耀眼的角色。
Letting go does not mean abandoning responsibility. It means leaving space for them to grow. I am always present, even if not in the spotlight. Only then can they stand on their own stage, becoming the brightest role in their own story.